To those who only support straight marriage, “You’re shoving your views down other people’s throats!”
To those who support same-sex marriage, “You’re shoving your views down other people’s throats!”
The claim ‘shoving‘ is implying something wrong is being done. Something is wrong and the ‘shoving‘ is it.
Let’s use America as an example. America has a system of government and the way it works is the position with the most power wins. This power might be money, votes, lobbyist, arguments, etc..
When those for straight marriage play by the rules of the system and win, they are accused of doing something wrong (shoving). When those for same-sex marriage (SSM) play by the rules of the system and win, they are accused of doing something wrong (shoving). So both are playing by the rules, celebrating when winning and complaining when losing. The problem is not ‘shoving‘ but being a good sport when losing.
But you say, “My side past a constitutional amendment by the will of the people. Their side won by one activist judge.” Did they cheat? That may be your opinion but legally they did not – it is the American system of government. In America, there are three branches of government: legislative, judicial, and executive. SSM advocates are playing by the rules when, after losing at the legislative level (constitutional amendment), they appeal to another branch of government to advance their position.
Now some might say, “OK then – I don’t like the system.” Fine, then try and change it for the better. But until you achieve that (and I wish you luck), people have to work within the system we do have, not a future system they don’t.
Hemant Mehta wants to thank pastors. He has spent the past decade or so trying to convince people that religion is more often than not a negative influence on our society, spending time convincing people why God doesn’t exist and why they should leave their churches, even if they are religious. But nothing he has done has been as effective as pastors who have spoken out against same-sex marriage.
If you are a pastor, here are your choices concerning same-sex marriage:
- Do nothing until you have to. You will inevitably. Meanwhile some members, especially youth, will drop out of church because you’ve not discipled them in this regard. Pew Research has reported that LGBT issues are millennials #1 problem with the church.
- Teach and repeat the marriage slogans (one man and one woman, etc.). It’s not working. One definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.
- Cave in. But this is not an option for a faithful pastor.
- Cave in if you are not a faithful pastor. This is commonly done in the name of love, but it is not loving to encourage people to sin (1 Cor. 13:6). Sin separates people from the true body of Christ even if they attend church. It even brings into question your love for Christ considering He defined love as obeying His commands (John 14:15). Concerning church attendance, such cooperation with the culture has not helped the mainline denominations.
The following video gives one reason why caving in doesn’t help church attendance.
For help in dealing with this issue in your church, whether you are a pastor, teacher, or in another position of leadership, please contact Garrett.
The following is a edited portion from Dr. Albert Mohler’s The Briefing from November 11th, 2014. The full recording and transcript is here.
When Krauss [New Atheist] was challenged by people who say:
“Well, religion has been around since the dawn of man. You’ll never change that,”
He responded by saying,
“This issue of gay marriage, it is going to go away, because if you’re a child, a 13-year-old, they can’t understand what the issue is. It’s gone. One generation is all it takes”
[Apparently the slogan “marriage is between one man and one woman” isn’t working with young people.]
Intelligent Christians need to understand that here is someone who hopes the religious faith will disappear; here you have a very keen thinking unbeliever who understands what every Christian parent may not, what many Christian churches evidently do not, and that is that if we are not giving intellectual ammunition for the Christian faith, if we are not moving from mere assertions to moving to arguments with their own young people, we shouldn’t be surprised that they fall prey to exactly what Lawrence Krauss is talking about here. We shouldn’t be surprised if we lose our own young people if we do not give them arguments that go beyond merely ‘believe as we believe.’
For some intellectual ammunition and help, especially as related to LGBT issues, contact Garrett below.