Jesus said when you judge another to help them, judge yourself first (Matthew 7:5). So how have Christians been a part in bringing about same-sex marriage? (My use of “we” means the majority of Christians).
- We Have Not Made Disciples – The Great Commission has become the Great Suggestion – and most Christians suggest someone else make disciples. The result? Even our own children are not adequately discipled and are leaving the faith in droves. With fewer devout Christians in society, our light is dim compared to the secular/progressive spotlight.
- We Unsanctified Marriage – First, we have embraced no-fault divorce. Second, we have not held to a biblical sexuality (sex only within marriage). Marriage is no longer sacred and special to Christians as God intended. We’ve brought the institution down to the level for others to access it.
- We Are a Moral Mess – High porn use, per-marital sex, and divorce rates have left us impotent to uphold the sanctity of marriage. We don’t even believe in it.
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- Make Disciples – As instructors learn more from teaching than their students, making disciples helps grow our faith. It’s not just for someone else, although that should be enough, but for ourselves, exercising our faith which makes us stronger.
- Sanctify Marriage – Reserve sex for marriage, do not engage in a no-fault divorce when the going gets tough, and encourage others to do the same. One of the best testimonies for Christianity is strong, intact marriages.
- Sanctify Ourself – Live lives of sexual holiness so we are not prohibited by hypocrisy in upholding righteousness.
The speed and depth of the current moral revolution could not occur without Christians being complicit. God’s hand and hedge of protection is being lifted from our land. Are we going to keep breaking God commands and encourage others to do the same or love Jesus and obey His commandments (Mark 14:15)?
I’d like to address two issues of the Josh Duggar molestation story. If you unfamiliar with what has happened, see here.
There are different ways to view hypocrisy.
One view is “If a person has done something wrong in the past they can never speak out against it in the future.” One is welcome to this view but two bitter pills must be swallowed.
First, it condemns a virtue. It is a virtue to speak out against what is wrong. Even if they do not reveal their past sins, it is still good to encourage others to do what is right.
Second, it’s unlivable and hypocritical itself. Ever lied, gossiped, or been nasty? Then you can’t tell others not to do these things or you self-condemn yourself as a hypocrite. With this view one cannot parent children because parenting involves teaching children not to act like you did as a kid. Imagine the following conversation:
Mom: Johnny, you disobeyed me.
Johnny: Did you ever disobey your parents?
Johnny: Then you’re a hypocrite – be quiet.
Another view I’ve heard regarding this story is essentially “A person should not speak out against another if their sins are or were worse.”
This view also condemns the virtue of speaking against what is wrong and promoting what is right.
In Matthew 7:1-5, Jesus tells His disciples not to judge others when they are guilty of the same thing. He even states their sins are much larger than those they are speaking against. Then He instructs them to get rid of their hypocrisy, and get this: judge their brother to help them. This view allows people to be virtuous and encourage others to do what is right. It also avoids self-condemnation.
Many commenting on this Duggar story are very upset that this ‘holier-than-thou’ family is not all that reality TV has portrayed them to be. (Since when did people believe reality TV was actual reality?) To help alleviate this misconception, Christians need to communicate that they are not ‘holier-than-thou’ – their righteousness comes from Christ. Paul wrote in Philippians 3:9, “and [to] be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith.” Righteous living is meant to honor God, oneself, and to encourage others to do the same. It is not meant to put others down. Admitting the struggles and failures with sin may make Christianity more real, authentic, and approachable to unbelievers. It may help people to be more open to Christianity instead of driving them away.