Everyone agrees: love does not mean to approve of everything. In fact, sometimes the loving thing to do is to reject or prohibits something. For example, a teenager might love to go to a party with alcohol and drugs, but it is percisely because of their parents love that they reject the idea and prohibit their child from attending.
God is love and just as a loving parent sets guidelines for their children, so does God. Sometimes children mistakenly believe their parents hate them for restricting their behavior. But in reality if a parent believes a given behavior to be harmful, the hateful thing for them to do would be to encourage the behavior. God is the creator and designer of life. He knows how best it should be lived. His commands are given, not to hurt us, but to help us.
God created sex to be practiced between opposite sexes within marriage. When any person, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or otherwise, rejects God’s design for sexual relationships, it is a sin. It is rebellion which says “My will is more important than God’s.” It is the opposite view of Jesus, who when faced with death said, “…not my will, but yours, be done (Luke 22:42).” It is also the breaking of the greatest commandment: “…You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind (Matthew 22:37).” A heart that loves God shows it by obeying His commandments. Many claim to love God but their actions show their true fruit. Jesus said in Matthew 7:21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”
Romans 2:4 states that God is kind and patience towards people in order to lead them toward repentance. People of all sexuality have to struggle with putting God’s will above their own. But when we do this, the Bible states, “And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God (1 Corinthians 6:11).”
Nearly all reasons for same-sex marriage (SSM) can also be equally applied to other marriage relationships by analogy that LBGT people do not advocate for. For example, proponents of SSM argue that same-sex couples deserve the rights and benefits of legal marriage. What about polygamous families? Do they deserve the rights and benefits of legal marriage? Proponents of SSM commonly say “no” because polygamy is not a sexual orientation.
The following are reasons why sexual orientation makes no difference regarding SSM:
It makes no difference to gay and lesbian people. Before 1973, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) classified homosexuality as a disorder. Homosexuals determined the APA was wrong and campaigned for the APA to declassified homosexuality as a disorder, which it did in 1973. The point: if gays and lesbians do not determine their view of homosexuality based on the APA’s view, why should anyone else?
The APA classified being transgendered as a disorder until 2013 when it was changed to the term dysphoria. Yet gays and lesbians have been advocating for transgendered laws and/or acceptance despite the APA’s disorder classification for decades. The APA’s disorder classification has been irrelevant to LGBT supporters.
If the APA were hypothetically taken over by social conservatives (it’s currently nearly all social liberals) and reversed the classification of homosexuality back to a disorder, it would make no difference to gays and lesbians. They would undoubtedly conclude the APA is wrong just as they did before 1973 due to bias and continue pressing for SSM and social acceptance.
Sexual orientation is primarily a moral judgment, not a scientific one. Science does not make moral judgments – scientist do. Professors of Ethics work in the philosophy department, not the science department. It is well known that most social scientist are socially liberal. A recent survey of psychologist at a conference revealed that 90% were socially liberal and 4% were socially conservative. From social liberals comes liberal sexual ethics. But there is no more obligation for social conservatives to abide by ethics of socially liberal mental health professionals than is for social liberals to abide by the sexual ethics of socially conservative doctors.
The bottom line is that gays and lesbians do not and should not determine the morality of homosexuality based solely upon the moral judgments of a mental health organization. The APA can provide helpful information as part of an informed moral conclusion, but each person comes to that conclusion themselves. For most religious people, gay or straight, it would actually be hypocritical to favor the moral pronouncements of a metal health organization over their own faith.
Part 2 of this subject entitled “Born Gay Makes It OK” will deal with the idea that because people are born with their sexual orientation, therefore that makes it morally acceptable.